This is a rant session. Just thought I would warn you before you read any further. If you get annoyed by people complaining about stupid people, jump off this train now because I'm about to annoy the shit out of you.
The topic: Mother's who say they love their children more than anything, but apparently not more than themselves.
It's something seen and heard all the time on social media. "My kids mean the world to me!" "I love my baby more than life itself!" "My kids come first!" I face it daily on just my personal FB account. I don't have a problem with these statements...if they're true. Now, a reader might think, "I completely mean it when I say it. I would die for my children." And I'm sure a good majority of you would.
My rant today is about all those women who have said such things, but will not:
Don't worry, I will get into each one. I know that I'm not the only one angered by this. Women talk. Yep, if you are one of this kinds of mothers, others are talking about you....and your kids.
First off, if you love that unborn child growing inside of you, STOP FUCKING SMOKING!! Yes, this angers me. No, you cannot tell me your doctor says it's ok. That's a lie. If it's not, find a new doctor because you are going to a quack. Oh yeah, and now that you've had that "joy of your life", why don't you not make them breathe second hand smoke and not light up around them! Don't tell me that your child means more than anything to you and still tell me that you can't quit smoking (or at least smoking around them). Let's just say it, that cigarette means more to you than your child.
Secondly, we all love seeing that one selfie of you cuddling with those cute little munchkins you say that you love more than life. But then when our feed is bombarded by all the party selfies with your besties and they newest "dude" in your life, we are all judging you. Yes, we are all wondering who is taking care of those babies all the time while you go out party every other night. "Nobody got time for that!"
Thirdly, I take issue with those women who conveniently forget that first child who they had too early and pawned them off with a family member. I understand not being mature enough to take of them when you were younger. But now you have your mother, grandmother, auntie, whoever end up taking full on parent role, get your shit together. What's worse now, is that you have another one or two or...three more kids and you love to spoil them. They are dressed in the cutest things and the constant photos show your devotion. So, hey! Where's your oldest kid? How are they doing? I'd love to see pics in their new clothes, playing with their new gadgets Oh yeah...they don't have those things, including your love. They notice what you're doing. And they hate you for it.
Next. and extremely close to my heart, those women who refuse to stay away from toxic relationships. My heart hurts for those kids who see their mother used and abused. As a person who grew up in that environment, I know what it's like to look at my mother and struggle with hating seeing her treated horribly and hating her because she stayed in it for so long. I have no respect for women who don't leave and stay away from these relationships. You are teaching your daughters that it's okay to be treated like that. And you are teaching your sons that this is a reasonable way to treat women. You apparently do not love your children more than anything in world, when you would rather have that relationship than be "alone" and raise your kids in a good environment.
Lastly, to all those women who will read this and come up with an excuse for every thing. They will sit back and get angry because "That bitch doesn't know me!" You should have learned a long time ago that actions speak louder than words. You can say all you want but how you really treat your children will out you. When they are adults and are sick from the smoke (and smokers themselves), when they don't want to spend time with you because you were never there, when they hate you for pawning them off and dislike their siblings who took their place, and when they resent you for keeping them in a horrible situation...don't ever wonder why. Don't ever try to blame someone else, especially them.
Think before you speak and mean the words you say. Take responsibility.
The topic: Mother's who say they love their children more than anything, but apparently not more than themselves.
It's something seen and heard all the time on social media. "My kids mean the world to me!" "I love my baby more than life itself!" "My kids come first!" I face it daily on just my personal FB account. I don't have a problem with these statements...if they're true. Now, a reader might think, "I completely mean it when I say it. I would die for my children." And I'm sure a good majority of you would.
My rant today is about all those women who have said such things, but will not:
- Quit smoking during pregnancy or around their children PERIOD.
- Stop leaving their kids with family and friends while they go out and party ALL THE TIME.
- Be mature enough to take responsibility for ALL their children and not just the most recent.
- Leave an abusive relationship because they are scared to be alone.
- Leave their state of denial and change their lives.
Don't worry, I will get into each one. I know that I'm not the only one angered by this. Women talk. Yep, if you are one of this kinds of mothers, others are talking about you....and your kids.
First off, if you love that unborn child growing inside of you, STOP FUCKING SMOKING!! Yes, this angers me. No, you cannot tell me your doctor says it's ok. That's a lie. If it's not, find a new doctor because you are going to a quack. Oh yeah, and now that you've had that "joy of your life", why don't you not make them breathe second hand smoke and not light up around them! Don't tell me that your child means more than anything to you and still tell me that you can't quit smoking (or at least smoking around them). Let's just say it, that cigarette means more to you than your child.
Secondly, we all love seeing that one selfie of you cuddling with those cute little munchkins you say that you love more than life. But then when our feed is bombarded by all the party selfies with your besties and they newest "dude" in your life, we are all judging you. Yes, we are all wondering who is taking care of those babies all the time while you go out party every other night. "Nobody got time for that!"
Thirdly, I take issue with those women who conveniently forget that first child who they had too early and pawned them off with a family member. I understand not being mature enough to take of them when you were younger. But now you have your mother, grandmother, auntie, whoever end up taking full on parent role, get your shit together. What's worse now, is that you have another one or two or...three more kids and you love to spoil them. They are dressed in the cutest things and the constant photos show your devotion. So, hey! Where's your oldest kid? How are they doing? I'd love to see pics in their new clothes, playing with their new gadgets Oh yeah...they don't have those things, including your love. They notice what you're doing. And they hate you for it.
Next. and extremely close to my heart, those women who refuse to stay away from toxic relationships. My heart hurts for those kids who see their mother used and abused. As a person who grew up in that environment, I know what it's like to look at my mother and struggle with hating seeing her treated horribly and hating her because she stayed in it for so long. I have no respect for women who don't leave and stay away from these relationships. You are teaching your daughters that it's okay to be treated like that. And you are teaching your sons that this is a reasonable way to treat women. You apparently do not love your children more than anything in world, when you would rather have that relationship than be "alone" and raise your kids in a good environment.
Lastly, to all those women who will read this and come up with an excuse for every thing. They will sit back and get angry because "That bitch doesn't know me!" You should have learned a long time ago that actions speak louder than words. You can say all you want but how you really treat your children will out you. When they are adults and are sick from the smoke (and smokers themselves), when they don't want to spend time with you because you were never there, when they hate you for pawning them off and dislike their siblings who took their place, and when they resent you for keeping them in a horrible situation...don't ever wonder why. Don't ever try to blame someone else, especially them.
Think before you speak and mean the words you say. Take responsibility.